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I recently attended my sister’s wedding, which was quite lovely. It was beautiful and a good time and I got to catch up with a lot of people I don’t see that often.

While there I was talking to a friend of my parents who has been divorced for a couple of years now. He has remarried to an awesome woman and they just had their first child. I was amazed to find out that two years later he is STILL paying his ex-wife $2200 a month in alimony!

Learning about shit like this only serves to reinforce my thoughts on marriage – it is just about the dumbest thing a guy can do.

An old page I had bookmarked goes over this pretty well. You can read the whole post here, but these are the parts that stuck out most to me.

If you really want to have some fun, try this sometime. Tell a woman the following story.

“A guy and girl are dating and super-duper serious. The guy comes to the woman one day with a piece of paper and says ‘Darling, I love you so much. Will you sign this legally binding contract that states that if I ever break up with you, you will pay me $400 a month for the next five years, and if you don’t you’ll go to prison?’”

What do you think that woman would say? Of COURSE she would refuse. Not only that, she’d probably be insulted, WOULDN’T SHE?

What if the guy then said “OMG, I can’t believe you! You are so horrible! Don’t you love me? Don’t you want to be with me? Don’t you value this relationship?”

Here is the verbatim response I got from some of my girl friends…

girl 1: I would think he was psycho and I would never talk to him again
girl 2: umm, hell no
girl 3: wtf, no sounds like a prenup

Telling this story really hits home the silliness of women expecting men to marry them under the traditional system. WOMEN would never agree to a system like that. Then why should WE?

I am convinced that if women made more money then men, and had to pay men child support and alimony when the man left the marriage, things like alimony and child support would be abolished in a heartbeat.

Women would never tolerate that shit. They would be out marching in the streets in front of the courthouse. They’d leave work early to vote for the proper politicians. It would get done…alimony, child support, communal property, no-fault divorce…all of that would be gone.

There is literally nothing a confident man can get from marriage he cannot get by being unmarried. Literally nothing. This includes:

• Love
• Commitment
• Wedding rings
• A wedding
• Changing her last name
• Living together
• Referring to each other as “husband” and “wife”
• Children
• Shared medical insurance (via domestic partnership and various other legal means)
• Life insurance
• Joint ownership of assets
• …and everything else

Try to think of anything a confident man can ONLY receive if he’s legally married. Even one thing.

You can’t, there’s NOTHING for him to gain and EVERYTHING to lose. The guy incurs massive risk for zero reward. Of course women do receive something a man doesn’t… free money if the relationship doesn’t work out.

Marriage is no longer a sacred union. Marriage today is relationship-insurance for women.

When I told the three girls above about my friend, they all said the same thing, “He should have gotten a prenup!” but I ask, why get a prenup? Why get married at all?

Of course, no one has a good response to this.

Anyways, if you do decide to get married, here is the best advice I’ve read:

Spend some serious money on a divorce attorney and write up a GOOD, SOLID prenup, and have her sign it. Make sure she signs it well more than six months before the wedding, preferably a year, this will prevent her from later saying she was “under duress”.
Also, make sure she signs it while being witnessed by a judge. This will prevent her from saying later that she “didn’t understand what she was signing”, since the judge will literally explain every sentence to her, and then sign off on it himself.